Intimate Betrayal: Domestic Violence in Lesbian Relationships, by E. Kaschak, Ed., Haworth Press, 2002.

Women to Women Sexual Violence-Does She Call it Rape?, by L. Girshick, Northeastern University Press, 2002. The American Library Association’s review on Amazon’s webpage says: “Perhaps the most isolated crime victims are lesbian and bisexual survivors of woman-to-woman sexual violence. Multifaceted sexual-identity issues combine with shame and institutionalized heterosexism to make society unable to acknowledge such assaults. The legal system, women’s support services, and the lesbian community are just beginning to name such behaviors, let alone confronting and dealing with them. Women’s studies professor Girshick breaks new ground as she plumbs the experiences and thoughts of 70 women, gleaned from a nationwide U.S. survey and in-depth interviews. She documents the women’s responses to the violence, whether they received or were denied aid, and whether silence was imposed on them. Her insightful and provocative work well may stir controversy even as it sheds light on a previously shadowed subject. Dedicated to “those who are still silenced,” the book also powerfully explores the need for community and such preconceived notions and myths as lesbian utopia. A worthy addition to the sociology of violence in women’s lives”

Lobel, K (Ed.). Naming the Violence: Speaking Out About Lesbian Battering. by Kerry Lobel, Seal Press: Seattle, WA, 1986. The Publishers Weekly on Amazon’s website says this: “From Publishers Weekly Sponsored by the Lesbian Task Force of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, this book is “by and for battered lesbians and those who work to support their empowerment.” Contributors note that the topic is especiallydifficult for lesbians because, as Barbara Hart, an activist lawyer, states in the preface, lesbian battering “contradicts our belief in the inherent nonviolence of women,” and publicity about it “may enhance the arsenal of homophobes.” Lobel alternates personal histories with commentary by counselors, activists and others who offer advice on how to treat victims and how to deal with the problem generally. (They note the many parallels to man-woman battering cases.) The victims’ stories are wrenching: one battered woman has become so suspicious that when she sees an adult and several girls flying kites in a park (while she writes her contribution to this volume), she remarks only, “I hope that their relationship is as loving and playful as it looks.” This collection constitutes a challenge to lesbians who abuse their lovers and to those who tolerate such abuse.”

Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them.

Insult to Injury: Rethinking Our Responses to Intimate Abuse, by Linda Mills, Ph.D., J.D.. Linda Mills is on the SAFE Speaker’s Bureau. (reviewed by Dr. Jack Turteltaub)

Domestic tyranny : the making of American social policy against family violence from colonial times to the present, by Elizabeth Pleck.

The Anger Workbook for Women: How to Keep Your Anger from Undermining Your Self-Esteem, Your Emotional Balance, and Your Relationships by Laura Petracek. Description: “Although men and women can articulate anger in very different ways, books on managing problem anger tend to focus on men and their tendency toward more violent anger expression. This workbook addresses the unique concerns of women with anger problems. Rigid social patterning, the book argues, conditions many women to stifle or deny their anger, and this repression can cause a range of other psychological problems. Others experience violent, outwardly focused anger. Whichever pattern your anger follows, you’ll learn healthier ways to express your anger from this workbook. Building on women’s tendency to be more relational than men, this book advocates interactive techniques as a primary method of anger management intervention. It integrates elements of narrative, art, and music therapy into a powerful set of anger management tools. Cognitive behavioral and attitude adjustment exercises help you limit the power of anger-triggering situations. Worksheets and assessments guide you in an examination of family-of-origin issues that might contribute to your problems with anger. Sections of the workbook explore the connection between anger and substance abuse, mood disorders, and spirituality, as well as the issue of domestic violence in lesbian households.” (added 4/19/05) Note that purchasing using this link gives a 5% donation to SAFE, with additional cost to you.

Gender-Inclusive Treatment of Intimate Partner Abuse: A Comprehensive Approach, by John Hamel, of the SAFE Speaker’s Bureau.

By Bert Hoff – The Seattle Times 2/6/2013

“…”…The most recent Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report on intimate-partner violence found that each year more men (5.36 million) than women (4.74 million) are victims of intimate-partner physical violence (Tables 4.1, 4.2 of full report) and psychological violence (20.5 vs. 16.5 million). Yet here in King County, there are no services for male victims. …” …”

Read the entire article: http://seattletimes.com/html/northwestvoices/2020302943_violence-against-women-lets6.html

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